Lately the line between my personal and professional life has become a little fuzzy. I think this was pretty obvious in my last blog post and, well, I’m still struggling with it. While working in California, where my of my co-workers were also my peers, I was fine with the lack of personal/professional line. However, in my current position, I am present as more of an authority figure (of sorts) to individuals who are very close to me in age. As a result, I often feel torn between presenting myself as an authority figure and presenting myself as a peer to the students I work with.
I recently went out dancing with my two sisters. We went to a bar right on the edge of campus. I thought it would be an interesting experience for my sisters since neither of them had gone to a four-year university and they were not familiar with the particular area. It turned out to be one of the more awkward experiences I’ve had. Looking around the dance floor and the pool tables and the bar, any and many of the individuals there could have been students who pass through my area of work. I didn’t recognize anyone, but I didn’t know if any of them would recognize me.
I immediately felt uncomfortable because even though I was not on the clock, I felt as if I had breached the personal/professional boundary by entering a space primarily intended for university students. Soon thereafter my sisters and I moved on to a different location with a greater array of individuals from the community, not just the university.
The experience was a bit of an eye opener. The following Monday I relayed the story to one of the student workers in my office and during the conversation she said, “When I turn 21 we should go hang out.” I laughed and shook my head and tried to explain that I couldn’t because she was one of my student workers and I needed to maintain some separation between personal and professional. She looked at me and said, “You think you’re going to be able to do that by going to (the bar near campus)?” Touche.
And then I realized that if I truly wanted to keep my personal life and professional life separate, I wouldn’t have told her this story to begin with. This story was my personal experience on personal time.
So where do you draw the line between personal and professional? On the one hand, you want to be somewhat personal with others so that you have some character – a way to distinguish yourself from others. On the other hand, some of your personal traits may not be acceptable or appealing in your professional setting, and you don’t want to blemish your reputation.
I’m still working on finding that delicate balance, which is very difficult considering my situation. I’m sure with time it will get easier because I will continue to age and the students will cycle through and the age gap will become more distinguished, less awkward. It will be interested to see how this changes and progresses.











